Why I Do This Work
I was married to a beautiful doctor. I was running a multimillion-dollar company.
And I felt dead inside.
I couldn’t explain it then, but my body could in many ways: I felt anxious. Sex was disconnected and disappointing. I struggled with premature ejaculation. My wife struggled with low desire. We were both overriding our body’s signals - with work, food, porn, late nights, “productivity.” And underneath it all was a slow, quiet ache.
The ache of being alive but not truly living.
It wasn’t until I started working with a CEO coach - who I later discovered had been a seasoned therapist - that things began to shift. The coaching started with business goals, but it cracked open my heart. I realized what I really wanted wasn’t another company, another win, or another goal. I wanted to feel alive. I wanted to feel wanted. I wanted to feel love again - in my body, in my heart, in sex.
That’s when everything changed.
Over the next few years, I went through a divorce. I earned my master’s in therapy. I hiked the Appalachian Trail - over 100 days of being mostly alone with my thoughts. I devoured every book and podcast I could find on desire, the erotic, intimacy, heartbreak, and healing. I sat through ten-day silent meditation retreats to immerse myself in Eastern traditions, while also training in Western approaches to couples therapy. I became obsessed with understanding what makes love last and sex stay alive - and why those things so often fade.
And somewhere in the midst of all that…
I became a slut.
I say that with love. I wanted to explore - deeply, honestly, fully. I wanted to know what turned me on. I wanted to feel my body. I wanted to know how kink worked, how safety and chemistry coexisted, how to flirt with my eyes, how sex parties worked, how to feel both seductive and honest at the same time.
And life responded.
A brilliant sex coach - Keeley Rankin - someone I’d once listened to on a podcast while still married, showed up in my inbox. She was looking for a mentee to take over part of her practice while she had a baby. I applied - and out of dozens of applicants - therapists, sex coaches, psychologists - I got the gig. What I didn’t realize then was that Keeley wouldn’t just open a door - she’d train me, week after week, for the next three years.
I started learning how to help people reclaim their bodies, their confidence, their sex lives.
How to say no and mean it.
How to say yes and feel it.
How to trust your desire - even when it terrifies you.
How to listen to the truth your body’s been whispering all along.
And here’s what I’ve found:
Most people think something’s broken - their sex drive, their body, their partner, themselves. But what’s actually happening is that they’ve been overriding themselves for too long. They’ve been trying to fit into a box: the “good partner,” the “high-achiever,” the “good girl,” the “masculine man,” the “cool one.” And they’ve forgotten how to listen.
When we stop overriding and start listening, something wild and beautiful happens:
Desire returns.
Aliveness returns.
Confidence returns.
Love returns.
Why This Work Matters to Me
I’ve lived the dull, “successful” life that looks good from the outside and feels hollow inside.
I’ve cried in the shower because I thought I was broken.
I’ve come too fast and not at all.
I’ve lost erections and lost relationships.
I’ve gaslit myself into staying in things that weren’t right for me.
I’ve said yes when my body was screaming no.
And I’ve found my way out. Slowly, honestly, and with help.
Now I get to help others do the same - whether that’s reigniting a sexless marriage, figuring out why you can’t get hard with your partner, learning how to flirt again, or finally telling the truth about what you want.
What I Believe
Your body isn’t lying. It’s telling you the truth. You just might not have the tools to hear it yet.
Premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, low desire - they’re not problems to fix. They’re your body’s solution to something deeper. Uncover what’s underneath - and they go away.
You don’t have to perform to be loved. You just have to be real.
Sex can be playful again. Love can feel alive again. And confidence isn’t something you achieve - it’s something you remember.
The Work We Do Together
Whether you’re here because you’re struggling with sexual performance, your relationship feels numb, or you’re just tired of feeling like you’re faking it - I’m here to help.
Clients come to me to:
Reconnect with their desire
Understand why chemistry has faded
Navigate erectile issues or early ejaculation
Heal shame and learn how to be turned on by being themselves
Feel sexy again - not perform sexy
Feel seen by their partner - or feel ready to find one
I’ve worked with men, women, couples, high-performers, people in open relationships and monogamy, queer folks, kink-curious, and vanilla as can be.
At the core, they all want the same thing:
To feel free in their bodies. To feel wanted. To feel alive.
A Final Word
If you’re feeling stuck, disconnected, or unsure of what’s even wrong - I’ve been there.
If you’re wondering whether you’ll ever feel confident, sexy, powerful, and kind all at once - I promise it’s possible.
This work isn’t always easy. It’s vulnerable. It’s brave. It’s real.
But on the other side is a version of you that’s more honest, more powerful, and more you than you’ve ever known.
Come home to yourself.
I’ll meet you there.
Next Steps
We’ll start with a free 15-minute consultation call - or some emails - so you can get a feel for what it’s like to work with me - and see if I’m the right fit for you.
If it feels like a good match, we’ll meet over Zoom in a confidential, supportive space. You don’t need to come in with the perfect words. I’ll guide you step by step as we slow things down and begin practicing tools that calm your system and help you understand what’s really been driving this pattern.
Most folks feel relief after the first session and a sense of clarity about why it’s been happening.