Overcome Erectile Dysfunction Without Pills or Shame
When your body stops cooperating, it can feel confusing, humiliating, or even terrifying. But you’re not broken. And you’re not alone. I help men heal the real cause of ED so they can reclaim confidence and enjoy sex again.
Why It Happens and How to Fix It
Erectile Dysfunction (ED) can feel like it strikes from nowhere. One day things are working fine. The next, your body won't respond. And the more you try to force it, the worse it gets.
You’re not getting hard because - consciously or not - your body is reading arousal as a threat. Maybe it’s past experiences, pressure to perform, or a subtle sense of disconnection. Whatever the cause, your threat system is kicking online, not your arousal system.
Our job is to understand why your system is interpreting arousal as unsafe - and help it feel safe again.
Here’s the key: Getting hard is a function of the parasympathetic nervous system - the part that only activates when you feel safe, relaxed, and connected. But if you’re anxious, stressed, or under pressure, your sympathetic nervous system (your fight-or-flight response) takes over. Blood flow is redirected. Arousal shuts down. Your body says: “Now’s not the time.”
So the more you pressure yourself to "perform," the more your system shuts things down.
ED isn't a defect. It's a signal.
And once you learn how to listen to that signal, and help your body feel safe again, everything will change.
Why Typical Solutions Fall Short
Most ED solutions focus on the mechanics: pills to boost blood flow, devices to force erections, or techniques to distract you from performance anxiety.
But none of these touch the core issue:
Why is your body treating arousal like a threat?
If your system is stuck in a stress response, no amount of Viagra or mental tricks will fix it. In fact, relying on them can increase anxiety, deepen disconnection, and leave you feeling even more dependent.
Real change means retraining your nervous system to feel safe with arousal, connection, and intimacy. That takes more than a pill.
I’ve watched hundreds of clients do that work - and find their way back to great sex, no meds needed.
How I Help You Fix it
Healing ED isn’t about trying harder or memorizing performance hacks. It’s about slowing down, tuning into your body, and addressing what’s underneath why your body is registering arousal as a threat.
In our work together, we will:
Identify the stress patterns and past experiences that might be pulling the emergency brake on your arousal
Teach your body how to shift out of fight-or-flight and into calm, connected presence - so you can get (and stay) turned on
Practice real-time tools to interrupt spirals of anxiety and disconnection in the moment
Rebuild confidence in your body's ability to respond, without pressure or performative goals
The fear won't run the show anymore. We'll meet it, move through it, and loosen its grip, until what remains is confidence, ease, and the kind of sex life you deserve.
What Clients Are Saying
“Working with Aaron changed my life. I’ve overcome sexual anxiety, ED, and transformed sex from an opportunity for failure to something fun and playful. Aaron helped me to make changes in myself that I didn’t think were possible and that I wasn’t able to achieve after years of struggling on my own and even working with other therapists in the past.”
— Software Engineer, San Francisco
Next Steps
We’ll start with a free 15-minute consultation call - or some emails - so you can get a feel for what it’s like to work with me - and see if I’m the right fit for you.
If it feels like a good match, we’ll meet over Zoom in a confidential, supportive space. You don’t need to come in with the perfect words. I’ll guide you step by step as we slow things down and begin practicing tools that calm your system and help you understand what’s really been driving this pattern.
Most men feel relief after the first session and a sense of clarity about why it’s been happening.