Trouble Orgasming? You’re Not Broken.
But your body is trying to tell you something.
Delayed ejaculation and anorgasmia aren’t about trying harder or just “relaxing.” They’re messages from your nervous system - often misunderstood, misdiagnosed, or ignored.
For some, it shows up as numbness. Others feel too in their heads or disconnected. Many can orgasm alone but not with a partner.
Whatever the shape, the effect is the same: shame, frustration, pressure.
But this isn’t about willpower.
It’s about rewiring your arousal system so you can let go - and feel again.
You can get there. And I can help.
Why It Happens and How to Fix It
There are many reasons you might not be able to orgasm - some physiological, some emotional:
Chronic stress or performance anxiety
Early experiences of repression, shame, or control
Subtle resentment, conflict, or disconnect in your relationship
Over-reliance on a specific masturbation style or porn habits
A nervous system that doesn’t feel safe enough to let go
Here’s the thing: orgasm isn’t just mechanical. It’s a reflexive response that requires both arousal and surrender. If you’ve trained your system to stay in control at all times, letting go becomes the hardest part.
How I Help You Fix it
Struggling to orgasm isn’t about broken parts. It’s about your body not feeling safe enough to let go - or your mind not feeling connected enough to stay present. That’s where we start.
We get curious about what’s getting in the way: performance pressure, emotional disconnection, dissociation, shame, numbness, or resentment. Then we retrain your system to respond differently.
That might look like:
Rewiring the link between trust and arousal
Learning how to stay embodied when things get intense
Exploring control, vulnerability, or unspoken fears
Reclaiming pleasure on your terms - not just “finishing”
This isn’t just talk therapy. It’s somatic, practical, and real. We work with your nervous system, your relationship patterns, and your erotic wiring - so your body can finally say yes to release.
Next Steps
We’ll start with a free 15-minute consultation call - or some emails - so you can get a feel for what it’s like to work with me - and see if I’m the right fit for you.
If it feels like a good match, we’ll meet over Zoom in a confidential, supportive space. You don’t need to come in with the perfect words. I’ll guide you step by step as we slow things down and begin practicing tools that calm your system and help you understand what’s really been driving this pattern.
Most people feel relief after the first session and a sense of clarity about why it’s been happening.