Premature Ejaculation Is More Common Than You Think - And It’s Fixable.
I struggled with premature ejaculation into my 30s, so I get how frustrating and deflating it can feel. When you’re worried about finishing too soon, sex stops being fun, and starts feeling like a countdown you can’t control. I’ve been there. I’m so glad not to be there anymore.
Here’s the good news: Premature Ejaculation is not about willpower. It’s a pattern, and patterns can be changed.
Why It Happens and How to Fix It
Premature ejaculation doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you.
It’s a stress response.
When you’re anxious, tense, or under pressure during sex, even in subtle ways, your body starts reacting as if it’s in danger. You clench your pelvic floor muscles, hold your breath, and brace for something to go wrong.
Here’s the tricky part. Those same physical signals (breath-holding, pelvic clenching, and tension) are also the signals your body uses to trigger orgasm. In fact, these are present every time someone orgasms.
So if you’re already tense, holding your breath, and bracing at the start of sex, it’s like you’re beginning at step 3 of a 4 step process. When any sexual stimulation comes in, orgasm happens quickly because you’re already in a pre-orgasmic state.
That’s why creams, pills, and Kegels don’t solve premature ejaculation - they treat the symptom, not the root.
Real change happens when your body stops seeing arousal as a threat.
That’s the work we’ll do together.
Why Typical Solutions Fall Short
Most folks start with the obvious stuff: creams, pills, numbing sprays, or Kegels. And while those might offer temporary relief, they don’t actually solve the root problem.
Premature ejaculation isn’t just about physical sensation. It’s about your system being on high alert - stuck in a kind of sexual fight-or-flight.
If your body is bracing, holding your breath, clenching your pelvic floor, and staying hyper-aware, you’re already halfway to orgasm before real arousal even begins.
Numbing creams might dull sensation, but they don’t teach your system how to stay relaxed and grounded during sex.
And Kegels? They often reinforce the very tension that is causing the problem in the first place.
Distraction techniques like “thinking about baseball” miss the point entirely.
The real work is learning to train your system to feel safe during arousal - so it stops misfiring before you’re ready.
And once you befriend the fear (not mask it), a great sex life is on the other side.
How I Help You Fix it
Lasting longer in bed isn’t about distraction or forcing control. It’s about retraining your nervous system so that arousal no longer triggers a threat response. This means learning to befriend the fear - to recognize and face the anxiety rather than avoid it. Once it’s faced, your PE will disappear.
This process requires commitment and courage, and you won’t be doing it alone.
In our work together, we will:
Assess what’s activating your body’s stress response during sex, whether it’s anxiety, pressure, past trauma, or other factors
Use evidence-based techniques to help your body shift from a state of tension to relaxation during arousal
Build your capacity to remain present and connected with your sensations and your partner, instead of bracing or rushing
Practice tools and exercises that help you regain control in real time, restoring confidence and calm
The fear won’t run your sex life anymore. Together, we’ll meet it, move through it, and loosen its grip - until what’s left is calm, confidence, and the kind of sex life we all deserve.
What Clients Are Saying
“I didn't think this was actually possible. I had struggled with premature ejaculation my entire adult life, read many books on the topic and even took an online course - none of which helped.
I was beginning to think something was biologically wrong with me and now, after my work with Aaron, I am living proof that change is possible. I feel so incredibly grateful to have the sex life I’ve always wanted. My partner has literally been crying tears of relief and gratitude.”
— Entrepreneur, Southern California
“I'm deeply indebted to Aaron for helping me get 'back on track'. He helped me realize that my issues were 'normal' and treatable and his gentle confidence and assuring demeanor helped me feel confident in myself.
His breadth of knowledge saw the big picture, and helped me see many unrecognized factors influencing my anxieties and enjoyment, helping me to begin to heal both emotionally and sexually.”
— Doctor, Washington
Next Steps
We’ll start with a free 15-minute consultation call - or some emails - so you can get a feel for what it’s like to work with me - and see if I’m the right fit for you.
If it feels like a good match, we’ll meet over Zoom in a confidential, supportive space. You don’t need to come in with the perfect words. I’ll guide you step by step as we slow things down and begin practicing tools that calm your system and help you understand what’s really been driving this pattern.
Most men feel relief after the first session and a sense of clarity about why it’s been happening.
I’ve been there - I experienced premature ejaculation myself until I was 30 - and I know the way through.