Stuck in the Same Fight? It’s Not Just the Argument - It’s a Deeper Pattern.
Learn how to break the cycle and feel close again.
You fight. You disconnect. You repair. Then it starts again.
For some couples, it’s about chores or money. For others, it’s sex, in-laws, or feeling unappreciated.
But the issue isn’t the content - it’s the pattern. One person gets loud or frustrated. The other shuts down or pulls away. And before you know it, you’re in the same dance again, wondering how things spiraled.
This isn’t about who’s right or wrong. It’s about what’s underneath.
Why It Happens
When couples argue about the same thing again and again, it’s rarely about the surface issue. More often, it’s a deeper emotional pattern rooted in unmet needs, unspoken fears, or old wounds getting reactivated.
Emotion Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) helps make sense of these repeating fights by revealing the emotional logic underneath them - what you’re both really fighting for beneath the words.
As a couple, you’ll map the cycle, identify the deeper longings underneath it, and practice expressing those needs in a way your partner can actually hear - so the loop can finally stop.
How I Help
This Isn’t Just “Better Communication.” It’s Deeper Understanding.
I use the evidence-based approach of Emotion Focused Couples Therapy to help you:
Identify the cycle you’re stuck in (so you can stop blaming each other)
Understand the raw spots and fears that fuel it
Learn to reach for each other instead of turning away
Rebuild emotional safety and connection - so conflict feels like something you can navigate, not fear
This work isn’t about scripts. It’s about helping you both feel less alone in the relationship.
What it Feels Like to Shift
Imagine arguments that actually bring you closer.
Imagine feeling like your partner gets you again.
Imagine going to bed feeling connected, not defeated.
It’s not too late. The love is still there - you just need a new map.
My Approach
With a Master’s in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and advanced training in Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), I bring a therapy-informed approach to coaching. I’ve helped hundreds of couples - including monogamous, polyamorous, and LGBTQ+ partners - navigate disconnection, rebuild intimacy, and feel seen by each other again.
My work is honest, grounded, and direct. I don’t play referee - I help both partners feel understood and guide you toward meaningful connection and growth. Let’s see if we’re a good fit.
Next Steps
We’ll start with a free 15-minute consultation call - or some emails - so you can get a feel for what it’s like to work with me - and see if I’m the right fit for you.
If it feels like a good match, we’ll meet over Zoom in a confidential, supportive space. You don’t need to come in with the perfect words. I’ll guide you step by step as we slow things down and begin practicing tools that calm your system and help you understand what’s really been driving this pattern.
Most couples feel relief after the first session and a sense of clarity about why it’s been happening.