You Deserve the Kind of Sex You Fantasize About
Sex and relationship coaching for individuals and couples ready for a change
You’re not broken.
Your erotic body is sending you a message. Those uncomfortable signals (the performance struggles, the fading desire, the lost spark) aren’t problems to fix. They’re clues. When you stop and really listen, you’ll find your answer.
Stop avoiding yourself with quick fixes. It’s not about new positions, medication, kegels, or how long you’ve been together. Trust that if something feels off, it’s because something deeper is off - and we can change it.
Over my career, I’ve seen the patterns to success and transformation with hundreds of individuals and couples.
You deserve a hot, can’t-wait-to-get-home kind of sex life. And it’s closer than you think.
I specialize in:
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That electric spark you once had? It didn’t disappear for good - it just got buried under routine, unspoken resentments, or a comfort that slowly turned into boring emotional fusion.
I’ve worked with countless couples who came to me saying, “We love each other, but the desire is gone.” And every time, we’ve uncovered that what they called “lost attraction” was really either a loss of polarity (the friction that makes desire possible), or the result of unfinished resentment that needed to be truly heard in order to feel safe to surrender erotically again.
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I struggled with premature ejaculation into my 30s, so I truly understand how frustrating it feels. When you’re worried about letting your partner down, sex stops being fun.
But the good news? It’s absolutely possible to teach your body to slow down - and it really works.
It’s not a failure of willpower. It’s a pattern. And patterns can be changed.
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I use a straightforward 3-step process for erectile dysfunction:
Rule out medical issues. We start by asking key questions (like whether you can get hard on your own) to identify if it’s medical or emotional.
Identify mental and physical patterns. We pinpoint specific thought habits and bodily tensions (like holding your breath or squeezing your pelvic floor) that contribute to ED. We also evaluate whether your current sexual experience fits your needs or if it’s time to adjust expectations.
Apply somatic mindfulness and rewire thought patterns. Together, we’ll unwind the thought and body patterns that trigger anxiety and rewire your responses - helping you relax into your natural ability to get and stay hard.
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When couples argue about the same thing again and again, it’s rarely about the surface issue. More often, it’s a deeper emotional pattern rooted in unmet needs, unspoken fears, or old wounds getting reactivated.
Using Emotion-Focused Couples Therapy, we’ll uncover what you’re really fighting for and learn how to express those needs more clearly - so the cycle can finally stop.
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If part of you feels like you’re using porn more than you want to, we’ll explore what it might be helping you avoid feeling. Porn often becomes a coping strategy for something deeper.
Once we can safely face and process those underlying emotions, the urge fades. I’ve been there.
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This is where things get exciting. Whether you’re partnered or solo, we’ll unlock what truly turns you and your partner on.
You’ll learn your unique erotic blueprint, experiment with language and scenarios that build real heat, and explore new dynamics in a way that feels both thrilling and safe. For couples, it’s a chance to seduce each other again - and bring back the pulse-pounding chemistry you’ve been craving.
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If dating feels like it leads to the same disappointment, heartbreak, or letdown - again and again - it might not be about who you’re choosing, but what’s choosing for you.
Together, we’ll look beneath the surface at the unconscious patterns running the show. Maybe it’s chasing emotionally unavailable people. Maybe it’s losing yourself to please. Maybe it’s avoiding intimacy entirely.
We’ll slow down and start to unwind the deeper dynamics, so you can date from a place of clarity, confidence, and real connection.
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It’s one of the most common (and misunderstood) problems in long-term relationships. When one partner wants sex and the other doesn’t, it feels personal. Rejected. Unwanted. Obligated or like a chore. But here’s the truth: mismatched desire is rarely just about sex.
Once we figure out what’s stopping you from wanting each other, mismatched libido goes away. Hint: It’s rarely attraction, though it really feels like it.
My Experience & Approach
I’ve helped hundreds of men, women, queer folks, and couples - monogamous, polyamorous, and everything in between - navigate some of the most vulnerable and frustrating parts of their intimate lives. My style is honest, grounded, and direct.
I’ve trained as a therapist, trained other therapists, and founded a multi-million dollar tech company that was later acquired, so I tend to be more direct and action-oriented than your traditional sex therapist.
I hold a Master’s in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Bradley University in Illinois, with advanced training in body-based approaches like Hakomi Mindfulness Therapy, Gestalt, Somatic Sex Education, CBT, and Emotion-Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). I often lead pleasure and sex workshops in Chicago, New Orleans, and San Francisco.
Nearly two weeks in silent meditation and 100 days in the woods reshaped how I see growth. I came to realize that real change happens far faster through self-acceptance rather than the Western obsession with constantly trying to fix ourselves.
I bring the rigor of therapy, the directness of coaching, and a deep respect for how hard it is to be human, especially in love and sex.
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"I’ve overcome sexual anxiety, ED, and transformed sex from an opportunity for failure to something fun and playful. Aaron helped me to make changes in myself that I wasn’t able to achieve after years of struggling on my own and even working with other therapists in the past.”
Software Engineer, San Francisco
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“Aaron facilitated couples therapy that re-ignited intimacy in our relationship. Our work together drastically changed my life.”
Couple, Chicago
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"I had struggled with premature ejaculation my entire adult life, read many books on the topic and even took an online course - none of which helped. I was beginning to think something was biologically wrong with me and now, after my work with Aaron, I am living proof that change is possible."
Entrepreneur, Southern California
Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Consult
Your free 15-minute consult is a chance for us to connect confidentially, talk about what’s going on, get a sense of how I might help you move toward your goal, and see if I’m the right fit.
Whether you’re dealing with performance issues, relationship challenges, or just want to improve your sex life, you’ll leave this call with clarity and a concrete next step.
Let’s see if we’re a good fit - and take it from there.